the ageless generation no.4
what is time anyway?
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I’ll leave the really big answers to this question to Steven Hawking and Einstein, but for you mid-lifers out there, I would like you to consider time for a moment. If you have had children, how has the time gone for you? When you have a child who is ill, or won’t sleep, or is causing you stress, time seemingly lasts forever, and you wonder when things will ever change. If you have had a stressful job, or bad boss then you will be familiar with the same drag of time. However, in times when you have had some really happy and fulfilling events in your life, do they appear to have passed very quickly?
The minutia of your situation is unimportant in this context, I just want you to think about how time impacts on your life. As the average life expectancy is now around 80, if you are reading this at 50 then you have as much of your life in front of you as you have lived since you were 20. If you are 60 now, then think back to being 40 and consider the changes in your life and thoughts in that time. Now go forward another 20 years and ask yourself if it is realistic to be thinking and dressing in the way you are now, or whether your thoughts and tastes will evolve. Age is a number that can be fluid, not something that is set in stone. Why not adapt your future to your new thinking?
How have you changed over the past 5, or 10, or 20 years? Have your altered your hairstyle, your footwear, your exercise routine, your diet, your house decor, your friendship groups, your career…I could go on but you get the idea. Why do you think that you either can’t, or shouldn’t, transform over the coming years? There is always time to experiment, time to spend on doing what you have always wanted, (once you remember what that is), and time to enjoy your life.
Often women will tell themselves that it’s not worth doing something or changing anything for a myriad of reasons. However, if you were asked the question, I bet you would consider that your life hadn’t been static over the last couple of decades. You have probably not spent the last twenty years of your life in a scenario where you kept the same image and thoughts, without any new inspirations or expectations.
In my experience with clients, you are as old as you feel, but I think importantly, you are as old as you want to feel. There is obviously no one size fits all approach to your image and your wider life. Just because some of your friends and neighbours are doing things that you wouldn’t dream of doing, doesn’t make your views and expectations less valid. For many women there is much more pleasure and contentment to be found in reading, gardening and family life than there ever will be in trans-Atlantic yachting, or any new entrepreneurial business ideas.
Embrace your creativity and individuality, but most of all, put some thought into how you approach this period of your life. The ability to be ageless will benefit no end from a proactive approach, so lets see if you can take some small steps towards the future you aspire to.
Continues in No.5…
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